This is neither a novel nor uncommon fantasy for a lot of people to indulge themselves with. The allure of the threesome has held a strong position for a long time, and if you were to conduct some sort of ranking list my guess would be that it would rank somewhere in the top three category.
But for those of you that have actually tried it, know that it is a lot more to it than just forming a sweaty snake-pit of bodies and have a grand old time. No, the dynamics of the threesome has to be carefully structured, otherwise your fantasy risks turning into a nightmare.
1: Do not have a threesome just because your partner has eventually managed to nag you into it. That will never end well, and competition and jealousy are two ingredients that you would want to keep far away from this dirty equation.
2: Watch the booze factor and how it plays in on your decision. A threesome should be everything you want it to be, and not something you wake up the next morning regretting. It is fine to have a few drinks just to relax once your mind is made up, but try to resist the urge if it is closing time and you have just gobbled down a tray of tequila shots.
3: Do not push your partner into having a threesome. The same rules apply here as brought up in rule number one. If you can not let this fantasy go, try to set up a threesome at an adult dating site instead of pushing your partner into a situation that neither one of you will end up enjoying.
4: Do not let the excitement of the experiment carry yourself away. You need to feel the sexual attraction to your threesome partners in the same way as you need to feel it in a regular situation. It is more common then you might think, that people lower their standards just because they lust for the experience. That is a recipe for doing something that probably will come back to haunt you.
5: No matter how the threesome is organized; with people you know, people you have met on a dating site or at a sex-club, it is important to get a unison feel for the boundaries and the dynamics within your group. This is not a game of “Simon Says” where everybody has to follow the same pattern. The only ground rule is: communication.
6: If you have experinced the threesome with a steady partner, remember that the activity is not over just because the physical part has. Even if you consider yourself the most broad-minded and open of persons, you never quite know when insecurities and jealousy can come into play. It is important to keep communicating after the experience, so this can be a something beautiful and exciting that the two of you have experienced together. A sexual adventure that can continue to be a spice in your love-life, instead of becoming an area of misunderstandings and suspicion.
So try to keep this in the back of your mind as you are looking for the best way to realize a long lived fantasy. Thinking about this is not a way of taking the fun out of the experience, they are meant to help you do the very most of it.
