Maybe your marriage has fallen into a stale rut of conformity and you are looking for a no strings attached affair to shake things up a little. Or maybe you are just an habitual player who needs the thrill of the hunt and the sweet sensation of the conquest as much as other people need water in order to stay alive.
Whatever the reason, there are plenty of both single and spoken for people participating in the hunt for a one off sexual encounter. We are a species of flesh, lust and sweat and no matter what kind of social patina we try to cover our animalistic side with, it will come shining through from time to time.
That said, you may have someone close to heart waiting for you at home, and not wanting to hurt that special someone with your escapades, here are a few things to consider:
1: The first code of conduct that really reverberates through any slightly shady activities, is to not get sloppy. Do not get overly confident just because you may have gotten away with it in the past. Think it thorugh each time and use discretion.
2: Do not brag. This can be a tough one, especially if you consider yourself the Alpha Male and half the pleasure lies in seeing your friends turn green with envy as you describe the fuck-fiesta you have just experienced with a sex-starved housewife, but chances are that your story will spread like rings on the surface.
Even if this is a group of friends you have known your whole life and you would trust them with your life, the may put equal trust in another person, who in turns does it with yet another. A chain is only as strong as its weakest link, and the bigger the conspiracy, the bigger the risk of housing a snitch.
3: Do not drink and… fuck. Being heavily intoxicated always impairs your judgment, and if you are openly making out with a one night possibility in a well populated bar, the risk of the wrong person seeing you in action and reporting it back to your significate other is a risk you should not be willing to take.
Handling your no strings affairs through an adult dating site is a much wiser, faster and discreet way of satisfying your desires. Besides, we all know about waking up the morning after with a one night stand that does not look quite as attractive in the harsh light of day.
Also, with alcohol being a sedative, meaning it dampens the intensity of your senses, stripping away a large part of the joy of yesterday’s fuck-session, so when you get that telephone call from your livid partner who by now knows it all, the million dollar question is: was it worth it?
4: Erase the trace. If you are a guy, do not be that guy, who gets caught with a smeared lipstick mark all over his shirt collar. Or that crams the panties of your latest conquest into your jacket pocket as a trophy. Then you are just asking for it. Think like a thief in the night, and be sure to wipe away every possibility of a fingerprint from your sexual encounter.
5: If you are prone to having a guilty conscience, try to overcome it. Because there is nothing more revealing than you standing in front of your partner with a bouquet of flowers in your hand on a tuesday afternoon for apparently no good reason. That is like putting a lit match to a smoke detector.
6: Finally. Do not do the crime if you can not do the time. Cheating can never be reduced of all risks, and for most people that is somewhat of the allure of it as well. But if you are not one of those people and you spend more time fretting about not getting caught then you do enjoying the fruits of your forbidden harvest, then maybe playing this game simply does not suit you.